Thoughts and illustrations on living on the autism spectrum.

Sunday, January 19, 2014


It’s nice to believe that we all fit in somewhere, but do you think it’s really true?
Some of us find fitting in's not so easy, no, it’s not so easy to do.
Always being the odd one out, the misfit wherever you go,
Try as you may to find where you fit, seems it might never be so.
Have you been broken, have you been bent, crushed, or pounded to make yourself fit?
Have you been rotated, overturned, relocated? But still excluded. Sounds familiar, don’t it?

If you’re autistic, you’ve gotta work extra hard, for the same rights as everyone else.
When you’re faced with a problem, no one else will deal with it, so you’ve gotta handle it yourself.
Self-advocacy’s not for the faint of heart, it might be the hardest thing you’ll ever do.
But if you lie down and take it, your needs will be trampled, self-advocacy starts with you.

You’ve got to be a hard-ass.
A hard-ass:P.
You got to show them that you should be heard, and accepted. It’s the only way to be free.
Might mean you feel like the bad guy,
But it’s well past time to be the nice guy.
Your own troubles matter, above and beyond, don’t worry ‘bout how they’ll react.
Your own wants and needs matter, know this and remember, and you’ll find the courage to act.
It’s not enough to have the right.
You still have to fight the fight.
And be a hard-ass.
A hard-ass:P.

Self-advocacy takes everything that you’ve got, takes you out of your comfort zone.
It’s gonna take spoons, when you’re all out of spoons, got to dig deep, find strength of your own.
When you’re feeling your most attacked and most battered, you can simmer, and seethe, and slow burn.
Or say enough is enough. They wanna play rough? Show you’re not to be messed with. They’ll learn.

Say you want peace and quiet, when loud noise surrounds you?  Well guess what? You got to get louder.
Got to get their attention, stand up for your sensory needs, it’s all in your power.
Say you’re given directions, that weren’t so clear? It means that you’ve got to be clearer.
Explain you’re confused, and which part, and why – you’ll find understanding is nearer.
And if you wanna fidget, and they tell you sit still, don’t let them interfere with your motion.
Keep right on rockin’, cause it don’t hurt nobody. Rock their world with a tolerant notion.
And if they want you to speak, when you want to write, you have the right to insist.
Same words, different medium, so choose your own. When you make sense, who can resist?
You got the right to exist. As you are.
That’s how to be a hard-ass.
Be a hard-ass:P.

You might think that it would fine with most people, if you were to just disappear.
"They’d be okay with me out of the way. What they don’t understand, they fear."
But you do have a place, the same rights as the rest, and the only way in is to shove.
And you’ll find that you fit, without breaking or bending, when you stand your ground and get tough.
You might get your way or maybe you won’t, but you won’t find out ‘less you attempt.
And you may find you matter, you may find respect, much more than you ever had dreamt.
And you’ll tell ‘em, “Damn right, I’m a hard-ass.
“Autistic and proud, you see.
“I’m a bad-ass, and you know it. Dude.
“I’m a hard-ass:P.”


  1. I'm a female Aspie and I have a blog. Nine months of the year mid February to mid-November, it's a NASCAR blog. The rest of the time, it's more about my life and Aspie things, basically.

  2. This brings up memories...Bullies never bothered me in high school, 40 years ago. I had a friend who was getting depressed because she was picked on. "Look at them, they're ass@#$%! Why do you let what they think bother you?" She told me years later I "saved her life."

    I don't know how I developed such a thick skin. After she told me that, I realized I used to be much tougher. I'm slowly getting back to it.

    I can see it being a little rappish...but music isn't my forte...sorry.

    1. Maybe harder to take one's own advice on hard-assery than to advise another? Also when it's not bullies per se, but simply people going about their business without realizing they're at fault.